More than Conquerors – Victory over Anger

April 23, 2024

“My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; Knowing [this], that the trying of your faith worketh patience” (James 1:2-4).

By Tia Tyson, M.A.

Have you ever been in a place in your life where everything seems to be going well and you could not be happier, and then without warning, life happens?

You lose your job, you are diagnosed with some kind of incurable disease, you get a divorce, lose a loved one, lose your home or a child or someone significant in your life goes to jail or prison. You might say, “no,” none of these things have happened to me, but what about unmet expectations or someone causing you sadness, disappointment, anger?

Let me see a show of hands with which one of you has never gotten angry before. Chances are not any of us raised our hands, because anger is one of those emotions we are innately born with. If this is true, then why is it when trials come into our lives, we become angry; why don’t we embrace trials? I know trials do not feel good, they are hard, we want them to go away; but trials are good for us. When trials arise in our lives, we should not allow anger to control us. We should embrace the trials because they are there for a reason.

Trials reveal our limitations, our weaknesses, our anxieties, things that challenge us and highlight our fears. It is in us to confront trials in our life with resistance. However, anger is not bad, it is only when we unleash the wrath that so often accompanies this emotion, that make it become like a tumultuous storm. If we do not harness our anger, it can become intense, loud, destructive, destroying everything in its path, engulfing the good as well as the bad amid its fury… However, despite this depiction we can have victory over the anger that trials bring into our lives. When we understand that anger is a natural emotion and we do not have to allow it to control us, We Win! God gives us peace through the trials, the storms in our life. When trials arise in our lives they do not happen by accident and God already knows what we are facing and going through. God knows ahead of time that we will face these trials and He already has a plan for us. “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end” (Jeremiah 29:11). God allows us to go through these trials to bring us closer to Him and to the purpose He has for our lives. Our trials become like a refiner’s fire that purifies us from the unnecessary things that prevent us from growing in Christ. These trials transform us, shape us, and mold us unto the person God created us to be.

In the middle of the storm when the elements are intense and our anger is at its highest, God’s presence brings a peace that surpass all understanding.  It’s here where we discover true “Victory Over Anger in Our Trials…”

In God’s presence is where we pray, seek God’s face, meditate on His word, remember His promises, and implement his truth. As we apply these practices in our circumstances we begin to experience a calm from the tempest in our soul. Victory Over Anger of Trials is about applying faith, trusting God, filtering out the negative thoughts, attitudes, perceptions, and mindsets. We must trust God in our trials by looking at them through God’s eyes and not our own. God tells us that, ‘No weapon formed against us shall prosper,’ and ‘When the enemy comes in like a flood, the Spirit of God has placed a standard against him.’ We must keep in mind that trials come to test and strengthen our faith and help us to grow in our walk in God. Most of all it glorifies, honor and praise God to see us go through. James chapter one versus two through four tells us, “My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; Knowing [this], that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have [her] perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing” (James 1:2-4).

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