December 14, 2022

It’s that time of the year. Christmas. The season of holiday decorations and children’s anticipation. The season of twinkling lights and snowball fights – well at least on TV – not so much in the warm, sunny south – but I digress. It’s the season of parties galore and multiple trips to the store. A time for Christmas cheer with family and friends near. And Jesus. Let’s not forget Jesus!

Christmas is a busy season and we put so many expectations on ourselves and others, that we often lose sight of the true meaning of Christmas. One of the biggest stressors for many people is gift giving. Some people spend hours searching for the perfect gift. Others stress about the inability to give gifts due to financial constraints. Sometimes it’s those last-minute gifts that cause anxiety, and sometimes the struggle is with guilt over not having a gift for someone at all.

I remember a Christmas years ago that I significantly struggled. I was a stay-at-home mom, it had been a difficult year financially, and I did not feel like celebrating at all. Had it not been for grandparents, our children would not have had gifts at all. I spent the season feeling sorry for myself and feeling jealous of those who seemed to be sailing through the season with no stressors at all. One day in prayer, God convicted me of my attitude, and I realized I had allowed the Grinch of commercialism to steal the true meaning of Christmas.

The truth is, I felt guilty that people gave to my family, and we did not have the means to reciprocate. I had no gifts to bring. I was ashamed and embarrassed. I truly love encouraging others, and I felt bad knowing I was going to show up to the Christmas celebration empty-handed. Then it hit me. Wait! I love encouraging others! Encouragement is a gift! That year, I wrote letters to everyone in my family and others in my life that were very dear to me. I was nervous about it, but I did it. I poured out my heart to them. I shared what they meant to me, the ways I appreciated them, and how I prayed for God to bless them. I gave them the gift of encouragement, and they graciously received it – many with tears in their eyes. That Christmas I learned that it’s not about the number of gifts or the cost of the gifts – it’s about sharing our true, God-given gifts.

​This year our theme at Cord of Three is “A Time to Rebuild.” Rebuilding is work, and it takes a team of people who are willing to share their gifts to make the project a success. As Christians, we do not have to come up with these gifts on our own. God gives us those gifts! When Moses was instructed to build the tabernacle, God spoke to him and said, 

“I have called by name Bezaleel the son of Uri, the son of Hur, of the tribe of Judah: And I have filled him with the spirit of God, in wisdom, and in understanding, and in knowledge, and in all manner of workmanship, to devise cunning works, to work in gold, and in silver, and in brass, and in cutting of stones, to set them, and in carving of timber, to work in all manner of workmanship.  And I, behold, I have given with him Aholiab, the son of Ahisamach, of the tribe of Dan: and in the hearts of all that are wise hearted I have put wisdom, that they may make all that I have commanded thee.”      (Exodus 31:2-6, KJV)

Building the tabernacle was quite a task, but God gave the people the gifts they needed to accomplish that task. However, they had to be willing to use those gifts to get the work done. God has given each of you gifts, also, and He gave them to you for a reason. He needs you to use those gifts to help accomplish the task set before you. What needs rebuilding in your life? A broken relationship? A negative belief about yourself? A ministry opportunity in your church? Whatever needs rebuilding in your life, God has given you the gifts needed to do the work. What are your gifts? Encouragement? Forgiveness? The ability to instill hope? A talent your church needs? In this season of giving in a year of rebuilding, reflect on the gifts God has given you and ways you can share them with others. You no longer have no gifts to bring – you bring the best gifts because you bring God’s gifts!

Training and Discipleship

The Cord of 3 training and discipleship program serves the community by offering educational seminars on various mental health and related topics (parenting subjects, coping with loss, warning signs of addiction) as well as conferences, retreats, and seminars for area churches on matters that pertain to God’s design for the family.

Counselor Education & Supervision

Cord of 3’s Counselor education and supervision program is deigned to support interns who are completing their master’s degree, counselors who are working toward licensure, and professionals who are working to integrate their Chritian faith into their clinical practice.

Equine Therapy

Cord of 3’s equine therapy program is designed for individuals ages 7 and up as well as women ages 13+ and families. Equine therapy can help individuals and families overcome challenges, cuiltivate healthy relational skills, build trust, improve interpersonal and behavioral functioning, and create positive self-concept and identity in Christ.

Play God’s Way

A Christ-centered play therapy model to meet teh spiritual, emotional, and mental health needs of children. Through play therapy, children learn to accept responsibility for behavior, engage in healthy coping strategies, acquire problem-solving skills, develop empathy for others, and gain an understanding of identity in mChrist.


Addictions always originate in pain… The question is never ‘why the addiction?,’ but rather ‘why the pain?’” (Dr. Gabor Maté). Counselors can help those struggling with addictions address underlying painful issues and then break the addictive patterns.

Child & Adolescent

Behavioral issues at home or in school often have an underlying cause, such as trauma, depression, anxiety, or other mental health conditions. The experienced staff at Cord of 3 meets each child with love, builds trust, and applies effective treatment that approaches the root cause of the behavior.

Marriage & Family

As in couple’s counseling, family counseling focuses on the relationship and dynamics within the family unit and between the individual members of it. Counselors will help clients identify unhealthy or unhelpful patterns, and to address them by developing healthier communication and conflict resolutions skills, create realistic expectations, and restructure familial roles to benefit everyone. The ultimate goal is to help the family be better able to thrive as a team.


Every person will at some point have at least one potentially traumatic experience, but this doesn’t impact everyone in the same ways. When struggling to process and move on from negative life experiences, therapy offers a powerful method of finding support and healing.


Individual counseling can help overcome the sometimes overwhelming fear and hopelessness by helping you better understand the conditions that led to the emotional brokenness you are experiencing, and applying healthy coping skills against them.