September 3, 2020

1 JOHN 3:1

Being a follower of Jesus Christ means that we are living as a new creature in Christ (2 Cor. 5:17).  Christian identity is not found in self-exploration and is not defined in terms of who we are in and of ourselves.  Christian identity can only be understood in terms of who we are in Christ:  what He has done for us and what He has done in us.  Our identity is never a reflection of who we are but rather a reflection of who God is.  “Our identity is for the sake of making known His identity” (Parnell, 2013). 

So many people today are in search of who they truly are.  A quick google search will discover that there are a myriad of online tools that will tell you what your personality style is, your spiritual gifts are, what your vocational habits look like, who your best mate should be, and so on.  All these tests are readily available because so many people are in search of finding out who they truly are.  The pretense of discovering yourself and being your best self is deeply rooted in the prideful arrogance of the natural man.  What we find in scripture about our identity is in stark contrast to this incessant search for identity and truly destroys the pretense of discovering yourself.  Consider for a moment this passage of scripture, “He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal” (John 12:25).

For our sakes as a Christian, it should be our goal to stop searching out our identity through self-exploration and start doing some God exploration. 

“He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it”
​(Matthew 10:39). 

You have no identity without Christ.  A careful study of scripture shows the frail, weak, and wretched condition of man without Christ.  Take a careful look at these passages of scripture:  Jeremiah 17:9, Romans 7:24, Genesis 6:5, Psalm 39:11, Psalm 144:4).  C.S. Lewis wrote, “It is no good trying to be ‘myself’ without Him.  The more I resist Him and try to live on my own, the more I become dominated by my own heredity and upbringing and surroundings and natural desires.  In fact what I so proudly call ‘Myself’ becomes merely the meeting place for trains of events which I never started and which I cannot stop. (Mere Christianity, 225-226).  Without Christ, we are constantly trying to create an identity that is based on the things of this world.  Anything we give ourselves to, outside of Christ, we end up becoming slaves to that source, these things never help us to become our ‘true selves.’  

Training and Discipleship

The Cord of 3 training and discipleship program serves the community by offering educational seminars on various mental health and related topics (parenting subjects, coping with loss, warning signs of addiction) as well as conferences, retreats, and seminars for area churches on matters that pertain to God’s design for the family.

Counselor Education & Supervision

Cord of 3’s Counselor education and supervision program is deigned to support interns who are completing their master’s degree, counselors who are working toward licensure, and professionals who are working to integrate their Chritian faith into their clinical practice.

Equine Therapy

Cord of 3’s equine therapy program is designed for individuals ages 7 and up as well as women ages 13+ and families. Equine therapy can help individuals and families overcome challenges, cuiltivate healthy relational skills, build trust, improve interpersonal and behavioral functioning, and create positive self-concept and identity in Christ.

Play God’s Way

A Christ-centered play therapy model to meet teh spiritual, emotional, and mental health needs of children. Through play therapy, children learn to accept responsibility for behavior, engage in healthy coping strategies, acquire problem-solving skills, develop empathy for others, and gain an understanding of identity in mChrist.


Addictions always originate in pain… The question is never ‘why the addiction?,’ but rather ‘why the pain?’” (Dr. Gabor Maté). Counselors can help those struggling with addictions address underlying painful issues and then break the addictive patterns.

Child & Adolescent

Behavioral issues at home or in school often have an underlying cause, such as trauma, depression, anxiety, or other mental health conditions. The experienced staff at Cord of 3 meets each child with love, builds trust, and applies effective treatment that approaches the root cause of the behavior.

Marriage & Family

As in couple’s counseling, family counseling focuses on the relationship and dynamics within the family unit and between the individual members of it. Counselors will help clients identify unhealthy or unhelpful patterns, and to address them by developing healthier communication and conflict resolutions skills, create realistic expectations, and restructure familial roles to benefit everyone. The ultimate goal is to help the family be better able to thrive as a team.


Every person will at some point have at least one potentially traumatic experience, but this doesn’t impact everyone in the same ways. When struggling to process and move on from negative life experiences, therapy offers a powerful method of finding support and healing.


Individual counseling can help overcome the sometimes overwhelming fear and hopelessness by helping you better understand the conditions that led to the emotional brokenness you are experiencing, and applying healthy coping skills against them.